Hi. I came across a tweet yesterday where someone was lamenting the loss of a family member because they came out and the family member rejected them. They’d suspected it would go that way, and they felt stupid for having thrust themselves into that situation against their better judgment. It made me think about how … Continue reading Unfriended
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Fake Friends
Hi. An interesting aspect of girlhood that not only branches out into, but completely consumes womanhood, is fake friends. Only, recently, I am noticing that this doesn’t only pertain to womanhood—there is an undercurrent of fakeness in modern society that is hurting the kind of people we are evolving into. This undercurrent is generally based … Continue reading Fake Friends
Outside Looking In
Hi. I’ve been working through a lot of things in therapy lately, but one of the most important things I’ve been addressing internally is the way that things look from the outside looking in. I’m realizing that I am part of a group of people who give the appearance of holding everything together even though … Continue reading Outside Looking In
My Body
Hi. I want to preface this by saying that this post will not be for everyone, but it is for someone. Body image is a topic that a lot of people are talking about lately, but it’s not a topic that I feel like many people talk about honestly. As these conversations become more frequent, … Continue reading My Body
Abusing Me
Hi. Now that I’ve talked about standing by your standards, I’m feeling led to cover the way we speak to ourselves. Somehow, society has accepted the notion that we are our own worst critics as an unchangeable truth instead of the arbitrary cliché it is. As the sole resident of your body, and the only … Continue reading Abusing Me
Stand By Your Standards
Hi. As I’m sure everyone has noticed by now, a lot of shifts and changes are happening at the moment, abruptly forcing us to face issues we’ve ignored, or to completely do away with the old and stand by patiently for the new. Things that we used to think worked for us are working no … Continue reading Stand By Your Standards
Becoming a Conscious Communicator
Hi. As we begin to become more selfish with our time, efforts, and energy, it’s essential for us to practice establishing those boundaries verbally before we move on to creating actual, physical distance from those who drain us. Something I have been working on is becoming the kind of person who is slow to speak. … Continue reading Becoming a Conscious Communicator
Becoming Selfish
Hi. Usually hitting the seven-month-mark each year terrifies me. When I was in college especially, getting past June meant I was racing against the clock, trying desperately to keep myself above water while simultaneously trying to make it look like I wasn’t struggling at all. However, this year is different. I’m excited. I started my … Continue reading Becoming Selfish
Self-Awareness
Hi. For my final post of the month, I wanted to again focus on something that brings together all of the posts from this month, and I came to the conclusion that if there is anything we have learned from each other during this time, it is the fact that being self-aware is essential, critical, … Continue reading Self-Awareness
Trauma Isn’t Strength
Hi. I’ve been feeling led to talk about trauma recently, and how many of us equate the way we’ve survived traumatic experiences with being strong. Trauma isn’t just the huge thing that many people think trauma is— in fact, if you feel like something or someone traumatized you, you’re right, and your thoughts and feelings are … Continue reading Trauma Isn’t Strength
