Holding Space

After taking the Love Languages Quiz, my languages are listed as follows: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.  It makes me feel on top of the world when the people I care about hold space for me, actively listen to what I’m saying, then let me know that they … Continue reading Holding Space

Confrontational

It’s just us here since I’m still on my social media break, so I wanted to write about something else that has been on my heart but, honestly, scares me to talk about: Confrontation. I am someone who used to say things like, “I’m not confrontational, but I don’t have an issue confronting someone about … Continue reading Confrontational

The Curse of Being Self-Deprecating

self-deprecating [ self-dep-ri-key-ting, self- ] adjective belittling or undervaluing oneself; excessively modest. Something super popular amongst my fellow millennials is how unwilling we are to be proud of ourselves, celebrate our wins too loudly, or allow others to compliment us for accomplishing excellent things. We brush off their kind words with jabs at ourselves, downplay how … Continue reading The Curse of Being Self-Deprecating

Ending Codependency

In my opinion, we all need someone to share our successes in life with. Whether that’s a partner, parent, friend, or sibling, it’s important, as a human, to feel seen and heard by someone in your corner. It only makes sense that we spend a large part of our lives in pursuit of that level … Continue reading Ending Codependency

The Pessimistic Optimist

            Something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately is the concept that I am very much a pessimistic optimist. I am someone who has pretty much consistently struggled with depression since I was a pre-teen, but I noticed something about myself—even while I’m depressed, I remain an optimist for others while simultaneously talking down to … Continue reading The Pessimistic Optimist

Being Truly Kind to Myself

            I read somewhere recently that intentional and repeated self-deprecation is a sign of not believing in the power and goodness within you. As someone who mostly downplays my every accomplishment or tries to make it seem like I don’t work extremely hard for the things I have, it hit close to home.              If self-deprecation is … Continue reading Being Truly Kind to Myself

The Power of Discipline

            I’m a work in progress—we all are. That doesn’t mean one day we’ll be able to stop the work, it means that as life progresses, so does the work. It grows as we do, meeting us where we are, consistently calling us to task. However, many of us miss out on new direction due to … Continue reading The Power of Discipline

The Power of Friendship

            My entire life I wished for a group of friends who motivated me to keep moving forward, praised my successes, lifted me up through difficult times, and was equally the friend to me that I am to them. I know I am a good friend—I’m fiercely protective, loyal to a fault, and a great listener—but … Continue reading The Power of Friendship

Mentally Unwell

There are two things I am finally coming around to accepting: mental health is serious, and mental health is wildly misunderstood. These last few years, during my most intense ups and downs, I have found myself struggling to articulate what exactly is wrong. I have struggled accepting the fact that there is something wrong, and it is … Continue reading Mentally Unwell