The Fallacy of Being Well-Liked

            “Well-behaved women seldom make history,” is how the saying goes, right? Well, I believe that the same saying can sort of be applied to the fallacy of being well-liked. It’s awesome to be well-liked. It feels nice, makes people think you’re nice, and can make you think you’re a great person (you probably are, but … Continue reading The Fallacy of Being Well-Liked

Do I Want That? Or Did Society Tell Me To?

            If you’ve learned nothing else about me thus far, you should know that I try to march to the beat of my own drum in all aspects of life. I try not to look around at what my peers are doing, because that’s their lane, not mine. I don’t feel like I’m behind in life … Continue reading Do I Want That? Or Did Society Tell Me To?

The Sorry’s Unsaid

            The most beautiful thing about working on healing for yourself is realizing how one-sided forgiveness is. That sounds weird, right? Not really. Once you get away from the tendency to endure mistreatment and heartache because you want closure—closure is not something you need or are entitled to—you begin to work toward forgiveness from within. What … Continue reading The Sorry’s Unsaid

Longer Route, Longer Journey

If we are to fully accept that our path is our path, we must also accept that our timing is our timing. What this means is that if it takes us eight years to complete a four-year-university education, then we are a person who took eight years to finish their degree, not a failure.  No … Continue reading Longer Route, Longer Journey

Ending Cycles

First, I’d like to apologize for my long, unannounced absence. It started off as something I needed to do for myself and turned into something I was forced into doing due to circumstance. However, I’m happy to be back reconnecting with all of you, and I’m so honored and humbled that you’re still along with … Continue reading Ending Cycles

Unfriended

Hi. I came across a tweet yesterday where someone was lamenting the loss of a family member because they came out and the family member rejected them. They’d suspected it would go that way, and they felt stupid for having thrust themselves into that situation against their better judgment. It made me think about how … Continue reading Unfriended

Fake Friends

Hi. An interesting aspect of girlhood that not only branches out into, but completely consumes womanhood, is fake friends. Only, recently, I am noticing that this doesn’t only pertain to womanhood—there is an undercurrent of fakeness in modern society that is hurting the kind of people we are evolving into. This undercurrent is generally based … Continue reading Fake Friends

Outside Looking In

Hi. I’ve been working through a lot of things in therapy lately, but one of the most important things I’ve been addressing internally is the way that things look from the outside looking in. I’m realizing that I am part of a group of people who give the appearance of holding everything together even though … Continue reading Outside Looking In