There are so many people wondering the world feeling a sense of loss, mourning the fact that they feel like they don’t have a mother. Jessica Lanyadoo, a popular Astrologer, popped up on my Twitter yesterday, which made this message almost divine, because I’d never heard of her before.
Every Mother’s Day, I feel people’s loss. Even in posts containing people praising their mother, I feel their loss of their sense of feeling protected. Their loss of feeling heard. Their loss of feeling nurtured. Especially women. A lot of women have an odd relationship with their mothers whether they are alive, have passed on, living with them, or living down the street. This is partially women clashing with their mothers because society tells them to, and partially women not liking how they feel the transition into adulthood messed up their relationship with their mothers, and so now they feel like they don’t have one.
However, we all know that is not true. Even if your mother abandoned you for a boyfriend, or missed your high school graduation because she was being selfish, you have a mother. You always have. Your mother might not be the woman who birthed you, but your mother is inside you.
To put it in more simple terms: stop grieving the loss of a mother that you’ve always had. You’re not abandoned, you’re not in mourning, you’re not in danger. You are safe, loved, and protected. You’ve done a wonderful job taking care of yourself up to this point, and you are going to do great things in the future. Even if your relationship with your mother is just fine, you have a responsibility to team up with your mom to learn how to mother yourself when she’s gone.
Happy Mother’s Day.
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